"My friend really wanted me to get married and have kids, so I could experience the kind of joy she had in her life. But she never asked whether it was something that I actually wanted."
This was a refreshing read. I just turned 35 and have friends who simply cannot understand not wanting to get married. They're a bit more sympathetic to not wanting kids, but it's taken years for some of them to get there. And the comment sections on articles written by or about single or childfree women are veritable cesspools of misogyny. I'm a live-and-let-live sort of person -- if you want to get married, get married. If you don't, don't. Same with kids. It boggles my mind that people make such a fuss when someone else chooses a different life path. After all, it's just as incomprehensible to me that anyone (but especially women) would want marriage and kids as it is to them when people like me don't.
Best read I've read from you so far, and condemning people who think like you is sad. Thank God there's no law that says you have to have children, but I think the possibility of such a law could exist someday very soon
This was a refreshing read. I just turned 35 and have friends who simply cannot understand not wanting to get married. They're a bit more sympathetic to not wanting kids, but it's taken years for some of them to get there. And the comment sections on articles written by or about single or childfree women are veritable cesspools of misogyny. I'm a live-and-let-live sort of person -- if you want to get married, get married. If you don't, don't. Same with kids. It boggles my mind that people make such a fuss when someone else chooses a different life path. After all, it's just as incomprehensible to me that anyone (but especially women) would want marriage and kids as it is to them when people like me don't.
Thanks, Bethany! Incredibly well said. :)
wonderful piece.honest.loved it.thank you for this.
Best read I've read from you so far, and condemning people who think like you is sad. Thank God there's no law that says you have to have children, but I think the possibility of such a law could exist someday very soon
THANKS, Bar. 🌞